Whatever the case, whoever the person, the vest is treated at all times with respect. Think of it this way. A vest, and if you're in a club it's most likely called a cut, is like an outer skin; it is a part of the wearer. You don't touch it without approval, just like you wouldn't just touch some woman's boobs or some man's penis. Get approval!
You'll see that some formal MC members will remove their cuts before getting into vehicles (when not on their bikes). It's a sign of respect. Informal clubs may keep theirs on; no disrespect is meant, it's just a difference in rules based on the club or group. I've heard that when hugging a club member that you shouldn't touch the back patch if one is there - know who you are hugging.
So, back to the sewing and getting patches placed. Remember that your vest is you. I've sewn on patches and club colors for MCs, RCs, and informal groups. You can bet your ass that I take it seriously. And for those not in a formal club, I work to make your patches have meaning through placement and theme. Again, YOU have meaning, and so should your cut.
~ Stitchblade